Don’t tell me what I can’t do!

Any LOST fans out there? Oh man – I am a total Lostie. One of my favorite characters is John Locke:


John was in a wheelchair but wanted to go on a walkabout in Australia. He flew all the way over there from Los Angeles, just to get rejected by the tour guide. Distraught, he got back on the plane to LAX…which crashed on the island…where he discovered that he could walk again!


I loved John because he was always telling his skeptics, “Don’t tell me what I can’t do.” I love that!

No one else should tell you what you can and can’t do. You know who determines what you can and can’t do? YOU. Only you. They will never know or experience what you’ve done and will do. They only know what you show them. And anyway – the time you spend on what THEY think is time wasted.

If you can think it, you can be it. You have all you will ever need already inside you. Most people (myself included) are looking “out there” to find out what can be done. It’s what we’ve been conditioned to do. Go to school. Read books. Get a degree, and you probably want one that’s good paying, so find out what pays well, regardless of if you want to do it or not. Learn from people who did the same.

When I went to college, I told my teachers I wanted to be the next David Letterman and have my own talk show. You know what they said to me?  …nothing, they were speechless! I asked what I should major in. They said probably broadcasting, so I did that. But they didn’t have classes to teach you how to be David Letterman, you know why? Because he’s the only one. He is the only David Letterman and there’s no course on how to be another human being. Yes, I could learn how to confidently speak into a microphone, which I did. But eventually I gave up broadcasting because there was no one there telling me to listen to the voice in my head, and I got discouraged. And that’s not their fault. They could only teach me what they knew. And they didn’t know entertainment broadcasting.

I have spent years reading self-help books. I don’t regret it. But I will tell you, all that ended when I discovered Bob Proctor. What he teaches is the best material I have ever come across, and I have seen a lot. Bob is helping me recognize and change my paradigms. It’s not fast and easy, but it is the real deal. Changing paradigms means changing your subconscious mind, which resides in every cell of your being. I am literally changing the cells in my body!

I’ve been in this coaching program for 4 months, and even though I’ve changed drastically, I still have an occasional flareup. Today I got really mad and I had to know why. So I wrote out my feelings in my journal. (BTW – feelings come from thought. What we think – the thoughts we choose to think – express themselves as feelings. So if you don’t know why you feel a certain way, you better analyze what you’ve been thinking to yourself!)

I chose to be mad. Why mad? Because someone told me that I can’t do something. I turned into an enraged John Locke. “Don’t tell me what I can’t do!!!” And I feel discouraged because someone thinks I’m weaker than I am. And in the past, that has stopped me cold. But…this person can say anything they want, and will it change the fact that I decide what I can and can’t do? Nope. Bob would recommend that I don’t get mad, but I just think to myself, “Huh, I wonder what made him say that?” And move on. Bob would also say (as he has in the past) that to worry about what other people think of you is a “dumb game.” 🙂

My sister said it best: “He basically just told you the limitations he has put on his own life. Don’t listen to them.”

And I won’t.